As a people pleaser, I struggle to make things right for everyone else. When am I ever going to learn that I am not responsible for another person's happiness? This might help:
A script to help me self-talk my way through my own feelings as I respond to the feelings of others about our holiday plans:
I am not responsible for (fill-in-the-blank family member/friend’s) happiness.
If ? is mad, that is his/her feeling, and it doesn’t have to affect me.
I cannot make ? happy.
It’s okay that I am happy.
Good boundaries mean that I don’t let his/her attitude ruin my holiday.
Good boundaries also mean that my feelings matter just as much as his/hers, and I might need to call him/her on it.
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